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Do you ever get back after a weekend of seeing your family and think, “Jeez, I really need to make more of an effort”?
More of an effort to be easy-going, and just let people be the way they are?
I do.
Introduction
Hi! I'm Kim, a 34-year-old living in Chicagoland with my husband, Steven, and our cats, Khali, Apollo, and Starbuck. I work in the design industry (architecture), follow a vegan lifestyle, am addicted to running, and am an ACE certified personal trainer (working at Essential Fitness, LLC ("Efit"))! I write about a variety of topics, and consider this a "life" blog - a place I can share anything that's on my mind. Please visit the "About" page to get a better idea of who I am! :-)
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Themocracy
More of an effort to let your sister know you’re in town perhaps?! 🙁
Christina – I was in Ames… so, my other family 🙂 SILLY PANTS! I would let YOU know if I was in town 😉
Yes. Every time.
Hence my decision awhile back to try to stop blaming myself, since blame is shared by all.
Still, it does ruin a visit when there is crankiness. 😉
being carefree gives you more opportunites for laughter!
oh yes, i think this happens everytime i see family from out of town!!! i’m just glad i’m not the only one!!!
Um, I dunno. I think family is entitled to be who they are. And I am entitled to want nothing to do with it. Ha. I kid. For the most part, I just allow myself to realize my family will get a little more crazy each time I see them. Usually that does the trick in terms of allowing myself to enjoy my time with them. 🙂
Family is tough. I like to sit at gatherings and mentally ask myself if it weren’t for the whole blood related thing, is this someone I would even be in the same room with normally? (A lot of my family are actually insane. Literally. Criminally. I try and avoid them at all costs, to be honest.)
I wish my parents had more time to spend, but I understand they’re busy with work and so I don’t think our family is in a situation where anyone could, or needs to, try harder. I just wish they had more free time.
Very few times have I wished that. As Kyra said above, family is tough. You want to be as honest as you can with them, but at the same time, you have to see these people again. So you tend to play the conservative card.
I am glad that I was able to patch things up with my mom before she passed away. We had a falling out when I went through my divorce that was pretty bad. But we ended up getting pretty close, despite her wishes of what she wanted me to be and do. It was nice that both of us made efforts to make amends.
OTOH, my sister and I get along, but we don’t stir the pot. She tries to at times, but has learned that who I am now is who I am…. period. Trying to change that back to a former life isn’t going to help our current relationship, which IMO is pretty neutral and calm, which is how I like it.
Well, since I’m with the Fam most of the time, I would have to answer your question with a yes. People are who they are and you either love them that way, or choose not to be around them. There is also that realization that you can’t change people – you can only change how you react to them.
I think you also need to see the underlying goodness in most people (especially family.) To see that what they do and say usually comes from a place of love and a sincere desire to see you happy.
I had to hit 30 before I really got that. If you can grasp it — the earlier, the better!
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Cat. – Personal crankiness? It didn’t help that I didn’t get much sleep either 😉
Gina (Mannyed) – But sometimes it’s not polite to laugh out loud 😉 JUST KIDDING! 🙂
CourtneyInControl – It sounds like we’re not alone 😉
Nilsa – Yeah, I guess in the long run, we ALL get a little more crazy? I know I feel a lot more stressed out, like I’m on a short circuit ALL the time…
Kyra – Ha ha! I wonder if a lot of people are asking themselves that question!
Jenn – I wish I got to see my parents more too. Even when I am in town with them, they are still running around doing a million things. But I am happy they have hobbies.
martymankins – What is this “conservative card” you speak of? Ha ha. I think I DO need to learn to use it. It sounds like you are very reasonable and don’t like drama… I’d like to think of myself as that way too, but I may be a bit selfish and judgmental 🙁
Jodi – I think you summed it up – I can’t change people. And if I want to be around them, which I DO, I just need to be more easygoing. Maybe there are a few things I need to change about myself too 😉
pffft, ok then just laugh out loud to yourself, hehe.
Yes, lets do the masthead for blogspot! One of the reasons why I’m considering blogspot is the ease of leaving a comment.
I’m thinking everyone has to learn that lesson the hard way….. it’s actually good that you are learning so young. We are all special in our crazy way! That goes for family, friends, and co-workers….
Gina (Mannyed) – Are you going to send me some photos and guidelines and ideas soon?! 🙂
javaqueen14 – I think you are right – we can find a little “crazy” in everyone – HAHA!