Feel good / feel bad
You know what makes me feel good?
When someone trusts me with an important secret (good or bad news!). I have had two friends tell me good news, but ask me to keep in under wraps, in the past week. What makes me feel even better is that these are not my besties,* but they still felt I was worth hearing their good news.
Does it make you feel good when someone trusts you and shares their “secret” news with you? To whom do you tell your “secret” news?
I am a very open person, and don’t have many secrets**, but there was a time last year when I was keeping some news to myself because it was not mine to share and it made me feel so awful. I feel better when I share. This, I learned.
And on a similar note, I feel bad when I find out someone has kept information from me, when I thought I was close enough for them to share it with me (<– did that sentence make sense?). Yeah. I could write an entirely different blog post about that one, but I won’t. Even though I want to. Really, really want to.
You know what makes me feel bad? This (Xing out my big toenails so I won’t scar you for life):
It doesn’t hurt, but it makes me feel bad because I think I will NOT be able to go to kickboxing class tonight, with my right foot looking like that. What do you think? Should I bandage it up and go?! Muah ha ha.
*I mean, I do know if they have cats or dogs, at least.
**Basically, you cannot shut me up.
Themocracy
Go to yoga!!! How did your foot get that way?
Good idea. The place I have the Groupon to does not offer yoga, but I have DVDs I could use at home.
I accidentally kicked the plastic part of the punching bag at kickboxing on Saturday. 🙂
Kim- I’ve been doing yoga at Total Body in Mundelin and love it. You should come with. The first class is free!!!
I hate secret news!!! It’s so hard for me to keep my mouth shut. :-/
Don’t tell me secrets.
Your foot looks really bad. (In case you thought it looked really good…it doesn’t-haha)
LOL! You are cracking me up this morning!
I am kind of a weirdo who likes to see bruises and stuff so it fascinates me how it is changing since I kicked it on Saturday.
And thanks for the warning re: telling you secrets, lol! 😉
Ouch! That foot does not look good. I would personally skip kickboxing. Wait, no I wouldn’t but I would tell someone else to skip.
I feel good when people tell me secrets but bad as well. I am a gossip by nature and profession, and I have a terrible time keeping my mouth shut. I inevitably tell at least one person whether it’s my BFF or husband or grandma. Sometimes all three. Mostly I tell people who won’t tell people that the secret-giver knows. Awesome, right?
Ha ha ha. Wait, does it count if you tell your husband?! 😉
When I glanced down the page at the foot pic, my first thought was that you were going to have the same thing done that I did – no more big toenails EVAR, ha-ha-ha!
LOL! They are not bad like that (although my younger brother did have to get his removed) – they are just short and ugly. 😉
What makes me feel extra good is when I share secret news with someone and said person keeps it under wraps! I like when people tell me good secret news!
I will keep all your secrets 🙂 TELL ME.
Ouch!! Your foot looks so painful! Hope it starts healing soon!
I love when people trust me with their secrets. What concerns me, is when people trust me with other people’s secrets. Mostly because then I am unsure where my secrets go. Does that makes sense?
Yeah, that does make sense. I think sometimes people cannot keep them, and they have to tell an uninvolved party, just to get it out… but that doesn’t make it “right”!
I’m not a fan of secret news, I like to be kept in the dark until it is public news! 🙂 Umm, ouch, that looks like it would hurt even if it doesn’t!
Ouch! Your feet look painful. My elbow is so bruised from my fall on Sunday that it looks like a inner tube. haha. Kick boxing sounds like so much fun. I should give it a try. Feel better soon 🙂
Hey, I just had someone share great secret news too! Love that. Oh, and I second the yoga suggestion. I just picked up 2 dvds from the library yesterday. Yes, because they’re free 🙂
I prefer secret news if I feel like I deserve to know… like if it was from my BFF or family members or something. I don’t mind if the news is from a friend who needs to talk about something but can’t with the people involved (i.e., I don’t know the people they are talking about or whatever).
Just the other day, a blog friend confided in me some feelings that she hasn’t shared with anyone else. I was honored that she trusted me in that kind of way. In a similar vein, a childhood friend who stood up in my wedding recently got engaged and informed me that she’s not asking me to stand up in her wedding. Although very forthright about her decision (and not apologetic for it), she was also very kind in telling me. In some ways, I was hurt that I wasn’t asked to be a part of her wedding. In so many other ways, I’m relieved. Attending a wedding is SO MUCH EASIER than standing up in it! =)
Honored is a perfect word to describe it.
Did she say any reason why she is not asking you to stand up in the wedding? I know someone who is planning a smaller wedding and I think they are worried about having that talk.
Well, now we all know the secret of how bad your foot looks! Ouch, that must have hurt when you did that.
A lot of people seem to confide their secrets in me – I guess I seem trustworthy? Most of the news has been friends finding out they’re pregnant but keeping it quiet, which is a really fun secret to be in on! But yeah, I had some really bad news that I had to keep quiet a couple times last year, and it is really hard in those cases, so I get that. I even wrote a cryptic blog post about one such occasion, because it was bothering me so much.
But sometimes it does sting a little when I’m the last to know and it’s someone I’m really close with. Like, why am I finding this out via a facebook status like everyone else?
You are definitely trustworthy. And pregnancies are fun secrets to keep! 🙂
I think that is why I struggle with news I am forced to keep quiet. I need to write. That is one of my biggest outlets.
In my close circle of friends, as much as we try to keep secrets, we all end up spilling the beans anyway. (obviously only with happy secrets like babies and weddings. We are just all so nosy, haha!)
ouch, girl, your foot!! I hope you feel better soon <3
ooooh, a nice feeling when someone really trusts you eh!!
I have one AMAZING gf who I can tell everything to. Sometimes though, I do end up just keeping things in, to myself!
Are you putting ice on that foot???
I am a pretty good secret keeper but, strangely, people don’t necessarily tell me stuff! I wonder why that is…
Hmm, ice. That does sound like a good idea… I iced it once on Saturday 😉
Are you finding out that people don’t tell you stuff after the fact?
Is someone knocked up? Fingers crossed. I love baby drama. I guess other people call it “baby joy”…
Remind me to tell you a secret next time I see you to put a smile on your dial.
P.S. No pets up in here
P.P.S When are we having lunch again?
LOL! I hope most people have “joy” over “drama” 😉 I will ask for this secret at book club on Saturday 😉
Hmm, lunch… gah. My work schedule is crazy! Maybe 1/30?!
I get what you mean about when people have kept a secret I’m not in on. I get a ‘pang’ then I shake it off. WTH happened to your foot? Ouchie!
I accidentally kicked the plastic part of the punching bag, instead of, well, the punching bag 😉
I usually get to keep the secrets, too, although no one has had anything to share as of late:(
So I’ll share one with you that I know you’ll appreciate – I am going to NYC in March!
Yee haw!!!! So excited you are going! We just got our tickets for February. It will probably be my last trip in a while (our friends are moving)!
A friend of mine entrusted me with a secret too and I felt so lucky to have them trust me like that! Its just a sign of good friendships which in the past I really didn’t have!
That is it exactly. I never had close girlfriends before who wanted to confide it me! It feels good 🙂
I didn’t tell people right away when we got engaged because I didn’t want to seem like I was pushing the news on people, like “ZOMG I AM ENGAGED!!!!” Then it got a little awkward when I didn’t tell people for a few days, so I didn’t feel like there was an acceptable time to be like “So, by the way…” I told some people and said, “We’re keeping it quiet for now” but then my mom said it could be perceived as rude not to tell someone big news. Blargh.
I guess that wasn’t really a secret. What are secrets? I blab everything. Ha, kidding, sort of.