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By kilax, September 11, 2009 5:48 am

What’s your reaction when you receive a compliment?

It makes me crazy when I compliment someone and they brush if off/dismiss it/deny it/dispute it. You know, “Oh, I really don’t like that feature about myself,” “I hate this top,” “I look so fat in this,” etc. Look – I’m not trying to kiss your ass by giving you a compliment. I genuinely noticed something I liked about you, and wanted to let you know.

Anyway, because of this, I am super conscious of how I receive compliments, and have noticed a little habit I have. When someone compliments me (specifically on an article of clothing/accessory, not a characteristic), I tell them a little detail about what they are complimenting me on.

I like your shoes, Kim. “Thanks! I can’t remember where I got them, I just found them in my closet this morning.”*

I really like your top! “Thanks! Every time I wear it, I am really careful I don’t snag it.”**

This is such a weird thing to do… and I’ve noticed I do it all the time! I guess I am trying to make myself feel less awkward when someone compliments me.

*Actual conversation with diane.
**It’s made of lace. Actually, I am wearing it in this pic.