Amigos nuevos?
I had so much fun Saturday night with Kevin and Diane + company (Red Robin + bowling! My two favorite things!) that I actually feel a little sad. I wish I could see them more often.
And I wish… I had more friends out here. Don’t get me wrong! I love spending time with Steven. We were in a long-distance relationship for 4 years, and every moment together feels like a blessing. But sometimes it’s nice to talk (together) to new people too.
We’ve gone out with people we’ve met at work, but you know what that means. As soon as either of us get different jobs, those relationships will likely deteriorate. It’s just the nature of the beast.
I find myself reaching out to new people I meet, and I’m not sure if I am being outgoing in making a new relationship or pathetic.
A few weeks ago, we went bowling early Saturday morning, and there was a person next to us bowling alone. We started talking, exchanged phone numbers, and she invited us to join her bowling league (on a separate team)… so we did a few weeks later.
Also a few weeks ago, we met someone during the townhome association meeting who lives in our neighborhood. On Friday, he was driving by our house with his wife and young daughter and saw me outside (with Data, on his leash). He stopped to say hi, and we ended up visiting for about an hour and a half. We even gave them a tour of our house. (And wow, I have never seen such a well behaved 2.5 year old! This gives me hope!)
I think I am just being friendly, but I have thought so much about how I need to make new friends that I’m worried I am being weird. Well, weird in that aspect! How am I supposed to make new friends outside of work… if work is the only place I ever meet new people?
Themocracy
Having just left a building where I lived for five years, I can tell you that some of these friendships just happen. It’s the stopping by to talk for a few minutes. Or grabbing drinks after work. Or talking to the girl in the lane next to yours. Next thing you know, you’re actually planning things in advance. And eventually you’ll be calling these people your friends. Don’t brush aside these small interactions – they could be the start to something beautiful!
Just two months until Davecago 3! 🙂
I have a few friends that I’ve met over the years through work that I actually still talk to and do things with. Compared to the number of people I associated with over the years and how many I am still in contact with, it’s a huge ratio. But sometimes through job changes, there are people that stick around.
I am not joking we NEED to go out to dinner sometime or something. It IS hard to make friends in adult life. Most of my good friends are people I met when I first had my first baby. Otherwise it is really difficult to make the real kind of friends and not just the people I talk to sometimes. I’ll email you in a bit if I can find your email address and maybe we can choose a day to do dinner somewhere?
I have very few friends where I live, since we recently moved here. Well, by “recently”, I mean 3 years ago, heh.
So whenever I hang out with bloggers, I always wish I lived by each and every one of them..why can’t it be that simple?
I realized that most of the friends I”ve made in the last few years all came from work. And before that most of them came from school. Unless they’ve been online friends – that’s all from blogging. It’s not easy to find friends outside of that apparently.
Nilsa – I think you’re right! I need to look at every moment as an opportunity 🙂
Dave2 – I actually said to kapgar and diane, “Let’s make sure we get together before Davecago 3!” We’re all really excited 🙂
martymankins – You know, now that I think about it, I HAVE stayed in touch with a friend that I used to work with out here. Maybe I shouldn’t brush that off so lightly!
tori – That sounds like so much fun! I am normally busy during the week and am out of town this weekend, but around the weekend of the 20th… hey, does your family like to bowl? 😉 Hee hee hee! I can’t wait!
Hilly – We should just have our own little blogger city where we all live together! Wait, then we wouldn’t read each others blogs and learn about different town, nations and experiences… I guess we just need to keep on getting together!
suze – I feel the same way. It’s easier to make friends at work and school because you’re with them all the time. It takes a lot to go out and meet stranger I guess? Hmm, maybe I shouldn’t consider my neighbors “strangers.”
My biggest problem was meeting friends outside of my college…since the college thing wasn’t working all that well. It’s a challenge!
Wait a minute, Red Robin and Bowling are your favorite things? Not Diane and Me? I think we should be offended and walk away and hold our own bowling parties without you!
JK 😉
I’ve been attempting to cultivate more “couple” friends lately.
Not so easy.
It was so much easier when I was in 4th grade and could just ask someone if they wanted to play jump rope at recess or share some twizzlers. Now, making friends almost feels like dating, and not in a good way.
Rachel – I was like that too in college, and I didn’t like a lot of my classmates, so I REALLY wasn’t meeting new people!
kapgar – Red Robin, Bowling, and Meeting Bloggers! Duh! 🙂 Especially ones who give me presents 😉
Whiskeymarie – You’re so right. It IS like dating. It’s painful. It’s awkward. It’s take a big time investment to build a good relationship.