Because you’re married, and you love your husband
And that folks, is why the nail technician thinks I should have kids.
I don’t normally go around asking people why they think I should or should not have kids, but she asked me so many times during the pedicure and manicure why I don’t, that I figured I should just ask her the reason she thinks I should.
Ha ha.
Sigh.
My nails and toes look nice though.
And man, I thought deciding on insurance was hard… look at all these colors! Ha!
I was talking to someone the other day (I can’t remember who! Ack!) and they mentioned that they always get asked why they don’t have kids when they go to a nail salon. Funny that it happened to me.
Themocracy
Not really a reason, but then a lot of people seem to assume the only reason to get married is to have kids…how unromantic of them! Talk about rude tho. Some people are really pushy and nosey!!
I have the reverse problem people assume I’m not going to have them. some people are horrified when they realize I would like to, their problem!
I guess in some cultures, that may be why people get married?!?! Ha ha. I know it came from a kind place, but it WAS pushy.
Oh really! That’s totally lame. I’m sorry.
This reminds me of the women who say “I didn’t know real love until I had my baby.” I would be so sad if my spouse said that.
I am surprised how many moms I’ve heard say that!
Oh man, for some reason the more “impersonal” a person is the more personal questions they ask. I swear, I got the most insanely personal questions from random about how I raise my child. I do not feel the need to tell a perfect stranger if I’m breastfeeding, how much my baby sleeps, etc. It’s crazy!
Ha! I never thought about it that way! Funny though, Steven was telling me a story this week about a completely random guy telling him a really personal story. Ha.
That is interesting you say that. Because I would never ask if someone is breastfeeding, but I have asked moms before how much their child is sleeping through the night, etc. I guess I shouldn’t ask those things!
What I tell people is “If you have to ask, the answer is ‘probably not.'”
Not everyone is wired to have kids, and not everyone SHOULD. If your gut is saying “no” or “I’m not sure” then you should probably wait until you’re sure.
We are not panda bears. We are not at risk of going extinct due to lack of breeding. Please don’t feel obligated because of outdated beliefs. 😉
I should tell them that! Or, I kind of like the idea of telling them I am not a panda. HA HA HA!
Thanks for getting it. I don’t feel like I’m wired for it. And I don’t feel bad about it! (although I do wonder why people who barely know me care if I procreate, ha ha)
DEFINITELY don’t feel badly about it! We are all called to our own unique path in life! 🙂
“We’re not panda bears” LOLOLOLOL. Stealing that.
That has never happened to me. The last time i went to nail salon was before I had my daughter. haven’t been to one since. I should go get a pedicure, my feet are gross from all the miles.
Your nails are gorgeous! I love no chip manicures.
And how dare you not have kids! …I want to continue that snarky thought with a joke but the idea is so absurd my brain refuses. Hah!
Ah ha ha! I love that you stayed in the seat next to her.
I would like some of these self-entitled butt faces to commute on the CTA just ONCE. Even with delays, at least the Metra doesn’t stop every 5 seconds.
I also hate the people that put their bags on the seat and get all irritated when you ask them to move it. I have bitten my tongue many times to stop myself from saying, “Did your bag pay for a ticket? Because I did.”
Oh well. I guess people are just tired and cranky after working in the city. :p
I think the difference between Metra and CTA would be lost on people like this. They’ll always find something to complain about and NOT see the bright side.
I want to say that a lot, too 🙂
And again, I think these people would be cranky working anywhere. HA!
I don’t get that question, but I do get the sales pitch for other services. They always bring up eyebrows, and I think there’s nothing wrong with my eyebrows.
Yeah, there often seems to be an upsale attempt!
Ha! Oh geez. A cultural difference, maybe?
I never get asked this, thank goodness, but I think it’s because I’m not married. I do, however, get asked all the time why Kevin and I aren’t married and when we’re going to get married. And if I weren’t in a relationship I’d get asked why I don’t have a boyfriend, am I looking? I’ve never understood these questions. More than anything, I find it sad that these people apparently can’t think of anything more interesting to talk about. I’d like to think that as unmarried and child free couples become more prevalent, this kind of invasive questioning will die down, but I’m sure it will always be there :-/
Yeah, I think, even though it wasn’t that kind of salon.
You are so right – if it’s not this invasive question, it’s something else that people think to ask. I was wondering the same thing – why we had to talk about this. I asked her about movies, cooking, her hobbies… and it kept coming back to this. Sigh.
Do you really love your husband if you don’t want him to put a baby in you? 😉
You know how I feel about these questions. It’s a little rude, and is really none of anyone’s business. But I guess people just don’t have anything else to talk about.
I don’t think so. I don’t think I know what love is.
Yep. And I kept thinking about how awful this question would make many people feel. 🙁 HOW COULD YOU NOT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE TO TALK ABOUT?! Ugh
I think it’s definitely that they don’t have anything else to talk about. Which is sad.
So weird! I’m not planning on kids either and often get questions about it too. I had a really awkward conversation with my boss once when she tried to convince me I had to have kids 🙁 But yeah, I don’t know why people have such strong opinions on why other people (practically strangers!) should have kids.
Your boss?! No! That is so inappropriate. WTF!!!!!
Yes, love the kid question. I’ve found that a great response is “We don’t have kids but we have a pet (dog, cat, whatever)”. For whatever reason, that seems to shift the conversation somewhat. It really is kind of (or really) an intrusive question, maybe because, while I never planned on kids, I know people who really wanted to have kids but couldn’t. I suppose that I try to be sensitive about that issue, but it does seem that pretty much a total stranger can weigh in on your very personal life choices.
I say that a lot! It hasn’t worked that well for me to get people to stop asking about it. Ha ha ha. And of course, I don’t care if my actual friends ask me… but strangers?! Wtf
Exactly. What if I was trying to have kids and couldn’t? I bet they’d feel like an ass if I said that.
I thought this was going to say that you only got half done with your mani/pedi because of the rude questions! Your nails look great!
Ha ha ha! Nope, but I got her name so if I go back I can ask not to work with her.
Sigh, none of her business why you have/don’t have or want/don’t want kids.
Was the nail tech from a different culture perhaps? Maybe it is not common in their culture? I’m really reaching here. Bottom line, it’s none of their beeswax.
She was 🙂 But has lived in the states most of her life. Like you said, even if it’s culturally odd to her, for me not to have kids, it’s none of her business and why keep asking over and over?! It was frustrating because I wanted that to be a relaxing treat to myself and she wouldn’t drop it.
“It would really get in the way of my selfish lifestyle”
That is what I told her 🙂 I am going to be more blunt moving forward.
Your nails look great, and I hope they’re still holding up nicely. Do you think they were worth being judged by the nail technician?
Thanks! I am not sure if it was worth it or not! It was supposed to be a relaxing trip to myself and it totally was NOT. Ha.