The decision’s mine. ALL MINE!!!
It’s 3.14! And you know what that means!
Three months until Christina and Will’s wedding (on June 14th)!!!
Oh, wait. Did you think I was going to say something about 3.14 being Pi Day? Hee hee. Well, that, too! Fun fact: Steven has a pi tattoo!
The wedding has been on mind a lot lately! For starters, I had a wedding dream last week. Classic anxiety dream – was late to show up, wearing the wrong dress, hair isn’t ready, there at the wrong time (months early), etc. I thought just the bride was supposed to have those?! It must just be a sign of how much I care!
Also, Steven’s suit arrived this week (he is a groomsman!), and now that our Oscars party is over, I am deep in to bridal shower and bachelorette party planning! Which brings me to the title of this post. And I am sure this is something I have written about before, but it’s interesting to me to observe.
Are you quick at making decisions or do you do a ton of research? Do you like making them on your own? Or do you tend to seek input?
Obviously, it’s different for different matters. Sometimes, you need an expert opinion, because you just don’t have the knowledge. And in my line of work, it’s often good to get another set of eyes on a design, especially to check for compliance.
But I really tend to be someone to make a quick decision, and stick with it, and be happy with it. I don’t enjoy researching a ton of options. I don’t mull over decisions. Honestly, if I am (and it’s not a major thing)… something is off.
So it’s been nice that Christina told me to just plan her parties, with whatever I think is best! I have been asking her some questions (like which painting she wants to do at the bachelorette party and other preference things) and the bridesmaids too (to make sure they are okay with cost and what we are doing), but mostly I have been able to make decisions on my own. Which is so refreshing. Because I am in a lot of groups where I don’t have a say or input*, and it just makes me feel completely deflated and useless (hi, work).
And… that makes me sound like a power/control freak. Hmmm. Nah… I think I just especially appreciate, lately, that someone trusts me to make decisions and plan things, on my own.
*Or worse – it’s ignored/not valued
Themocracy
In MY job, I have to tell people what to do and make decisions all freaking day long. So outside of work, I totally prefer if someone else takes the wheel. But they never do. (Hi, hubby.) lol I still get stuck with planning everything we do, everywhere we go… just ONCE it would be SO NICE if I could come home and hear, “Get dressed, we’re going to ABC to do XYZ tonight.” ONCE!
I always find it interesting when a couple has this dynamic. Is he making decisions all day long too, and likes to rely on you to do it? Or… just doesn’t care to plan things out?
3 months!! YAY!!! Big props to Christina for letting you do your thang with the festivities planning.
It’s hard to be micromanaged! It’s stifling and really just makes the project (or whatever) drag.
Oh gah, it really is. And it makes you question yourself! And give up. Er… I know nothing about it though! 😛
Wait. Steven is not wearing his Oscars party costume when he is a groomsman? So disappointing!!!
I love that your sis trusts you to plan the party! She knows it will be awesome no matter what you decide! The painting party sounds really fun!
I think I do a little of both. It’s when I’m not confident with my knowledge that I tend to over think it (Like booking flights!)
Ha ha! I know. Sigh. This am he told me he needs new shirts and I pointed out he is not fully using ALL the ones he has! 😀
I think it’s going to be a lot of fun too! And she picked an easy painting. Phew! 😀
Oh yeah! Situations like that it’s good to get tips! 🙂 Let me know if you ever need help picking out a beer.
Yes, please help me pick a beer to drink tonight!
I’m a really quick decision maker and don’t do well with too many options. I think my family has been surprised with how easy it’s been to make decisions (for me…) about my wedding. For example, I tried on 8 dresses during 1 appointment and picked one. In my mind, there’s no need to draw out the process :). Everything will work out, right?
Also so exciting for your sister!!! It’s coming up!
Yes! That is exactly how I was with my dress (well, besides trying on in Italy for fun). And… I just wanted to get it over with! Everything will work out and you will be happy with your decisions!
OMG. I can be SO indecisive. So I have to research EVERY POSSIBLE OPTION before I make a decision. It’s kind of silly.
However, we planned our wedding in 6 months. So for once in my life, I had to make quick decisions and stick to them.
Also, we picked our current apartment pretty impulsively. It was the first apartment we looked at that I could see us living in, so we went for it. But that’s because if you wait even a day in the Chicago rental market, someone else will take it.
But I have yet to get a tattoo because OMG permanent.
Hmm, for some reason, that surprises me about you! How is Robert? Steven is more like you and it makes me BONKERS (we joke about it). Analysis paralysis! (jk……. sorta)
Apparently it’s a family thing – my brother’s wife jokes about how he is the same way with being indecisive.
Robert likes to research but I don’t think he’s as bad as me.
I try to at least not let it hold me back or keep me from doing fun stuff.
LOL! So, let’s blame the parents! 🙂
Yeah, I think that is why I was surprised, because I always think of you as doing fun adventurous things, but I guess that doesn’t mean you didn’t think about it for a long time 🙂
Your sister’s pic (engagement pic?) is so cute and shows the couple’s personality.
I am a mix of both. I love to do a lot of research before making a decision. A LOT of research. Just spent last night researching what M. Hubby and I should do when we go on an overnight trip this weekend. But at work people often come to me with help making decisions because I have a lot of experience and can usually make a decision on the spot. I’m definitely a planner, though.
Yeah, that is from her engagement pics! I just love them! There were some fun ones with bikes and pedal boats, too 🙂
Do you think you enjoy the research because you enjoy planning? Or the search? I just wonder why I hate it so much. LOL!
YAY 3 months!! Also, AHHHH 3 months!
I can’t wait for the bridal shower & bachelorette party!! It’s going to be soo much fun! WOo-hoo!!!!!!!! You’re the best snister!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will be ready!!!! And it will be amazing!!!!
ALL THE MOSCATO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (starting at 11:00 am) 🙂 Thanks xoxo 🙂
Christina is super lucky to have you planning her party! It’s going to be amazing, I just know. I think you are able to make decisions so well because you already have a vision (even if you can’t quite articulate it).
And, yes, there is not much worse than being part of a team or a project where you just want to GET IT DONE and you can’t because of someone else.
Thanks! 🙂
Yeah, I am used to waiting on people because they are not doing their job, but because they are never pleased and make everything SO difficult? Ugh. I think I prefer the no response people, at least right now! 🙂
HA! This is timely, because I just surveyed the audience on Facebook about which headband I should buy for my Bridesmaid duties. 🙂
I used to be a very quick decision maker, but that has changed a lot over time. I don’t know if it’s because I’ve always found myself with highly analytical men, or it’s just a product of age. Eventually I get frustrated and just want a decision MADE, but usually will want to explore a few options before I get to that point. It’s especially hard with decisions about my appearance, because I think it is very difficult to be objective.
I am lucky because I have a pretty cool bride too! She decided she didn’t want a shower, and just about everything else she’s encouraged me to do what makes me comfortable and happy. 🙂
What was the verdict?! 🙂
That is interesting that you have changed! LOL, I feel like the more analytical others are, the more it makes me want to make a quick decision!
That is fab!!!! Are you still having a bachelorette party? 🙂
I’m pretty indecisive- but in planning events and things I am great at making decisions and sticking to them. I’m planning a Bachelorette trip to Disney World and am making all the decisions myself based on our budget. There are just too many opinions and to save drama I’m just saying “here’s the plan.” Of course, I’m asking the bride’s opinion about what she wants to do, so the trip is basically planned around that. I made a reservation in Epcot’s “World Showcase” last night and had to give her about ten senarios to choose from. That was fun.
So what kind of things are you indecisive about?
That sounds so fun! And yeah, I think with groups, it’s so much easier to have a trusted leader plan things out, getting input here and there. Some times people can never agree on anything!
I’m happy that I’ve never had to plan a bachelorette shower, but I think that I would want to take into account the bride’s opinion, but as others have said, to have to take into account the other bridesmaids’ opinions on everything – that would be a major drag! Unless there were only two others and they were like-minded individuals!
It’s great that you and sister get along so well. Have fun with the planning!
Ooh, I wish I could make decisions like that! I agonize over EVERYTHING and really worry about it. I might have to ask you to start making decisions for me. 🙂
Your sis sounds like an awesome bride in that she trusts you to make those decisions vs going all Bridezilla on everything. I tend to be a pretty independent thinker and quick decision maker. For our wedding I may have left out some people in some of the decisions oh well, it was our wedding afterall, right?
Yeah, unless you want the input, I don’t really think anyone gets a say in your wedding except you and your partner!
John and I switch roles on this often. It’s kind of weird. But there are days where I’m all, “oh, I don’t know, it’s up to you…” and there are days when he is like that too. And then also the reverse. It depends on my mood.
But I don’t research much either (on purchase decisions)…I just do it. And John AGONIZES. It’s hilarious. And painful.
I don’t think that is weird. I think it’s good to have that balance, in a relationship. Because… you can’t depend on someone else to make all your decisions for you, all the time! But it’s nice to let someone else take the lead, too.