Bad client / Amazon Giftcard Giveaway WINNERS!
Have you ever been responsible for providing a service/solution/product/etc. to a client (someone at work or home) and no matter how many options you come up with, the client dislikes each and everyone? And the kicker is, while they know what they dislike, they don’t know what they want. And it’s not as simple as providing the opposite of what they say they don’t want.
UGH! It’s so frustrating! What do you do to help a client find what they really do want?
I am in that situation right now. Only, I am the client! To… myself.
I have the sole responsibility with providing myself happiness/peace of mind/balance/etc., and I’ve been failing. The frustrating thing is, I have the power and resources to provide myself these things. But the past couple of weeks I have felt irritated, moody and anxious.
And while there are much bigger problems in the world than my mood – I do realize it’s a self-centered endeavor to try to fix it – I worry when my mood swings so much in one day, and really, from moment to moment. Like, for realz, what is my dealio?!
So I have provided a few options. To which I have disliked them all, but don’t know what I want.
- Option A – eat all the things! Sigh. My emotions told me to try that one. Bad call, emotions. That made me feel physically and emotionally WORSE!
- Option B – do all the things! A logical response to Option A was to spend my time doing things to distract from emotional eating. Oops. Then I am a slave to my calendar, which makes me resentful… to myself. Even when they are fun activities.
- Option C – do no things. I tried to take an afternoon to chill, as a response to Option B, and that just made me feel lazy.
Sigh. I am being a bad client. What do I really want? Why can’t I find my balance?
Ha ha. I am sure it will come soon. Just being a bit dramatic over here.
Do you ever find yourself the “bad client” – to someone else… or yourself?
Um… no related pictures. So here is another picture of Data. Ha! I actually took this one. Hence it being out of focus.
And I take that back. The photo is related to the post – Data can be one PICKY client!!!!
Whoa! Huge amount of entries on the Amazon Giftcard Giveaway! I got so many entries, I decided to give away two $20 giftcards! And random.org picked #16 and #22, which is diane and Michel@Babyweightmyfatass. Ladies, please email me @ kilax@ilaxstudio.com, to claim your giftcards!
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YAYYY!!!! Thanks Kim! 🙂
ALL of my clients (hiring managers) at work are picky. Ha.
I know what you mean though. We emailed a little bit about this–when I try to find “balance” in my life, it just mean jam in all the things I want to do in addition to all the things I am supposed to do, instead of making more room for “me”. I’m so tired and grouchy lately. Not cool.
I sent the giftcard to your yahoo acct yesterday! Let me know if you didn’t get it 😉
Do you have any plans to not jam? LOL, less jam sessions! 😉
I got it, thanks!! P is making me practice not working more than 8 hrs unless truly necessary. It is AWKWARD to be the one person leaving the office on time, though. :\
Yay!
Silly question, but have you talked to your boss about it at all? Do they support an 8 hour work day / work/life balance?
I struggle with the “do all the things!” and “do no things!” When the weekend hits, sometimes I just want to sit on my butt, go for a run, and sit on my butt some more. I don’t know if it’s because I’m getting older, or because I spend so much time during the week doing the commute/work/run/sleep/repeat and it’s just nice to not have a schedule. But then I feel like life is passing me by.
YES! I want to workout then be lazy. Instead, I work out and do social things and then am lazy in that I don’t clean my house. So I feel tired from doing too much, and like I accomplished nothing. But, I think relaxing is good. I want to learn how to do it better.
Congratulations winners!
That kind of rut can get hard to get stuck in, my best friend has been stuck in that particular situation for a couple months and is just spinning her wheels, vacillating between all of your options. It’s hard because it’s so dependant on emotional health, which is the real root of at least what’s going on with her, and that’s easier to name than to address.
WOot! woot!!
Life used to be so much fun before when I had a million things to do on a weekly basis. Now not so much. Maybe it’s to much adult responsibilities? eh I don’t know.
I sent the giftcard yesterday! Let me know if you didn’t get it.
Yeah, it is the adult responsibilities. I should have been more irresponsible in college and high school, for realz!!!
I think it’s worth figuring out- because even if it is just your “mood” that could spill over into every other aspect of your life. Maybe its just a phase or something.. I dunno. I realize im a bad client for myself because I want to eat all the things, then complain about how I feel and look. Im ready for a change to get out of this rut.
Data is totes smizing!
Yeah, I was talking to Steven about it more, and telling him I DO need to figure it out since it is affecting everything else.
What do you think will help you get out of your rut? Prepping for a kickass HM this week?!
I’m a horrible client. So are the patients I deal with sometimes.
My husband decided a few months back he wasn’t going to do anything he didn’t want to. He often did things that others wanted, just because he wanted everyone to be happy. He realized he can’t do it all, and he also realized he wasn’t as happy. For instance, he decided he didn’t really like running like me, but he likes to bike. Often instead of running with me, he’ll ride his bike. Perfect compromise!
I think just setting priorities is the most important. Think about what really makes YOU happy. Then you’ll be happy!!!
And seriously, Data is adorable!!!
I am trying really hard to do the things I want to do. And I usually do, just too much of them, if that makes any sense.
Oh. Except work. Don’t want to do that. Ha hahahahahaah.
I definitely struggle with the “do all the things” part! Like Maggie said, I really appreciate being able to relax on the weekends, but I feel like I “have” to clean, do laundry, grocery shop – fit in all of the “life items”. It can be overwhelming – and then, I just want to eat:(
Um this was me at lunch today. I was out doing errands and had a millions options including going home and cooking anything I wanted, but I just couldn’t make up my mind about what I wanted. I was so annoyed with myself. I finally gave up and had a bowl of frosted mini wheats.
Data is the most handsome cat ever.
Hope you’re feeling less anxious soon – don’t you think some of that comes from modern life in general – there is so much to do/see/eat/experience all the time that we don’t want to feel like we are missing out on something, which can paralyze us?
Oh yes! I think this is totally a modern day issue. And really, it is a blessing to have all these opportunities too! I should write about that.
Just writing about this yesterday did make me feel better 🙂 Oh! Maybe that 1 hour nap with Data helped too 🙂
This hit home for me because I have been struggling a lot with balance, too. I’m doing great in some areas and not-so-great in other areas. It is such a challenge to do everything you need to do (work, chores), want to do (socialize, relax) and should do (eat well, exercise)!
YES! I want to do all the want to do things first. Then the should dos. Then the need to dos last. DEAD last. Hee hee.
Have you thought of anything to help you out with balance?
It is NOT a self-absorbed endeavor to want your moods to be balance. Or at least feel like you have control over them. Well, I mean, it is technically self-absorbed but it’s a good self-absorbed. Because, yes, we’re not islands in this world and our moods affect others.
Sounds like you might need to add some structure to how often you schedule things. And realize it’s okay to say no!
Yeah, you know I have a problem with over-scheduling!!! You probably know it best of all!