Help is on the way!
Awhile ago I felt completely overwhelmed with a project at work. The workload was divided between me and two other people, with me running the project and taking the bulk of the work. And I felt like I couldn’t get it finished in time.
So I came in early and stayed late to work on it. But that wasn’t doing it.
Someone noticed I was working late and offered to have another team member help with the project*. Ahh. Instant relief. Just knowing someone was going to help.
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Work hasn’t been so nutso, because I have been doing a better job of leaving work at work and forgetting about it on weeknights/weekends. I have a new work smartphone and I don’t know how to use it well, except to make calls – and this is good. No more checking the calendar/emails when I am not working. Come Monday morning I usually have no idea what the week has in store for me and that is a good thing**.
But this post is not about work. It’s about asking for help.
I’ve been on a downward spiral since the end of January. I just can’t seem to shake the self-sabotaging funk I am in! I gave myself February to try to figure it out. That didn’t happen.
So I asked for help. I found a therapist who specializes in the issues I am dealing with and made an appointment.
Instant relief.
Instant.
It’s crazy, how much just asking for help makes me feel better.
Do you instantly feel a bit better when you ask for help?
I mean, asking for help is not going to automatically “fix” me or anything, but it gives me a glimmer of hope!
*I had already asked for help but I won’t even get in to that.
**Of course, I can remember my lunch dates and which days I am working at home!
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I am glad you have found some relief!
Asking for help is (usually) the first step in getting help, or at least recognizing there’s an issue. I’m so glad that you’re getting the support you need on the project, and also getting professional help on the larger personal issues you’re having. I admire that!
It’s super hard for me to ask for help and I’ll become one big stress ball, if the help is offered, I’ll try to take it and it’s usually a big relief…glad you got some help!
I went to a therapist for awhile last year, and it helped A LOT. We talked about the stuff that I thought was bothering me, and also stuff I didn’t realize was bothering me, and it was good to have someone else’s perspective on things. And unlike talking to friends, you can be totally honest without worrying about the other person’s feelings, or the feelings of the people you talk about in therapy.
That is what I am hoping for – that the therapist will help me find the underlying issues. Sometimes I think I’ve figured them out, then I quickly forget. And yeah. I don’t want to dump on my friends much more than I already am!!! 🙂
Also I wish it was socially acceptable for me to tell some of my friends to find a therapist …
You are doing the right thing! Glad relief is on the way!
good for you for asking for help! i have issues with asking for help but when I do I am so happy that I did. Therapy does WONDERS so enjoy it!
YAY!! Good for you!!! I am SO glad you are feeling better!! It is so hard for me to ask for help, but like you said, once I do, it’s like, wow, I feel so much better! Why didn’t I do that before?!!?
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It is great to hear that you have found the strength to ask for and get help for the issues that you have been carrying. Good luck, my friend
Definitely feel better when I reach out and don’t have to pretend to have all of my sh*t together. Glad that you reached out and that you are feeling good about it.
I am so glad you are taking care of YOU!
I’m glad to hear on all fronts that you’re getting help. It wasn’t my place to say anything, but I was wondering if you’d consider talking to a professional. I hope you are feeling better soon. I definitely know that just KNOWING help is coming makes a world of difference!
The only thing ever holding me back from going to therapy is time! My schedule is so crazy (part of my anxiety), but I want to make this work 🙂
YAY!!
there is no shame in asking for help. The worst thing that can happen is that you only feel “sorta better” rather than “awesomely better” pretty good odds if you ask me!
Im glad you asked for help and I really hope that you can get some more relief. I hate to read that you are having a hard time and I hope that things start to feel better soon. Im thinking about you and sending good vibes your way!
Asking for help can be hard which is why I think people put it off for so long. Hopefully the next time you find yourself in a funk you can look back on this and remember what to do!
I think that asking for help is the hardest step. It takes a lot of courage to take that step. And I definitely think there’s a sense of relief in just knowing that there are resources out there to make things better, and that you’ve got the ball rolling! I went to see a therapist myself last year for some family issues and it was so helpful – so I am very hopeful that your experience with a therapist will be as positive as mine was.
I’m so sorry things have been so crazy for you! But I’m glad you’ve asked for help. I’m a big advocate for therapy and think it is so helpful to have an outside perspective.
P.S. – Thanks for the kind words about Lucy. 🙂
Hooray for help! I had major anxiety in law school, so much so that I sought out a therapist. She was so awesome! I’ll never forget going to her office feeling so tightly wound up and leaving an hour later feeling like a weight had been lifted. I was sad to graduate and move from Buffalo bc I couldn’t take her with me, haha.
I first started feeling that way in school too! It was too much. I have been to quite a few therapists (since then, and in school).
Asking for help is a huge step – it’s hard to do, but definitely makes me feel better. I’ve worked with a therapist a few times over the years (once just because I was SO overworked, and got super stressed about what Monday would bring every Sunday night… it was ugly), and it’s always been really helpful. Just having someone to talk to who is unbiased and open-minded is a tremendous relief. I hope it’ll be helpful for you too!
Good for you! I really hope that you get a lot out of therapy and that it brings relief. Keeping my fingers crossed for you!