Inspired?
Or crazy?
I just finished the book MWF seeking BFF (about a woman who moves from NYC to Chicago, leaves her two best friends (BF) in NYC and starts a year-long quest to find a BF in Chicago). I must have been inspired, because after my kickboxing class, I asked a fellow kickboxer if she wanted to grab lunch sometime! Don’t worry – we had talked before class too. But I did look like this when I asked her out:
But I wasn’t making that face. Ha ha.
Anyway, I was going to ask you guys if you thought she would contact me, because I gave my info to her and did not get hers in return. In that book, the author said she always got the info and contacted the other person, because people usually don’t follow up.
My hopes were not too high, but I already had a text (to my email) when I turned my computer on! Cool! Maybe I’ll make a new friend? She is a runner (that is what started the conversation – me asking about her running shirt) and from a suburb out here, but lives in the city. Hmm.
Have you ever asked a random person out?
I have to say – I do think this is the first time I have! I’ll let you guys know if we ever do have lunch.
Themocracy
She would be crazy not to have lunch with you!
LOL. Thanks. She probably thinks I am crazy!
I have never done that! You are so brave – don’t think I would have the nerve to do that!
Someone at work that I didn’t know very well invited me out for coffee once. I am still not sure what it was that motivated her to suggest it. But I’m sure glad she did, because now she is one of my best girlfriends!
Aww! That is awesome! Do you see your work friends outside of work too?
Not that much. She actually ended up leaving my workplace within a few years but our friendship flourished.
When I worked at Lowe’s, one of the guys I worked with was making fun (jokingly) of his wife’s hobbies. It was all stuff that I liked, so I told him that she and I were going to be friends. I added her on fb, told her who I was, and we became friends. He later made some poor decisions and threw away his family, but I’m still friends with his (now ex) wife!
Ha! Cool! That is an interesting way to make a friend. Too bad for him!
I give you mad props for asking someone out, I would not have the balls to do that. And, like Losing Lindy said, she would be crazy not to have lunch with you (I would have lunch with you anytime you asked but yes, you would have to ask, lol, well, the first time anyways!)!! Two big cat paws up to you!!!
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All I have to do is ask? Well, please come have lunch with me!!! 🙂
I wish I lived in Chicago just so I could have lunch with you!
Me too! When are you coming out here again?
HAHAH – the timing is so perfect for this post! I was asked out last night! I was at the gym nursing and another mom sat down and started nursing too. Her baby is a few months older than Ayla. We chatted for a while and then she asked for my phone number! Is it weird that it felt really good that she “asked me out”? 🙂
I bet that girl that you asked to lunch feels the same way I did.
It is NOT weird! It is cool! I hope she calls you!!! 🙂
I’ve been trying to make friends with other girls in my age group at races. The local running community is small so you end up seeing the same names/faces at local races. I have made 1 new friend so far and hope to make more!
Also, when are we going out for lunch, since our offices are not that far from each other! Maybe when it is more than 12 degrees out. 🙂
That is awesome that you are doing that! And it’s always good to have more running buddies!
I am sort of free Monday and Tuesday – in training both days and don’t know when our lunch break will be, but I could TM you?
I am b-r-o-k-e this month, but I would love to plan something in February!
And I’m not sure if this is am dumb or obvious question, but what do you mean by “TM you” mean? :/
February sounds good! Or we can bring our lunches and meet at a cafeteria 🙂
Sorry, TM = text message 🙂
I like that idea too!
Oh DUHHHHH… Haha I guess I thought it was some sort of new blogger speak I wasn’t aware of. I’ll email you my PN (phone number) 🙂
I’m so shy when it comes to that type of thing. I have no idea why. I rarely talk to people when I’m at races or anywhere else. I imagine I’ll change my mind about it when I have kids and hopefully I’ll be more open to talking to other moms an trying to hang out.
I am really good at talking to coworkers and convincing them to run with me at lunch though. Mostly only in my immediate office though. I rarely talk to people at my gym but I’m still not sure why.
That is such an awesome thing to do! I love that you’ll put yourself out there like that. I’m still not brave enough to try it. Maybe I’ll feel empowered after reading that book?
Maybe! Apparently it rubbed off on me. I think I am going to order the book for you on Amazon. Right now. 🙂 (I was going to give you my copy, but I haven’t finished digesting it yet!)
I don’t think I have asked a random person out. I don’t know if I ever had the opportunity – or at least I don’t think I’ve noticed an opportunity.
Can’t wait to hear how it pans out. I’m going to go and download that book for the Kindle and keep my eyes peeled for a potential date : )
I hope you get a date! I am meeting my date tomorrow for lunch. And get the book!!!
Is it awful that I am starting to go in the other direction? I am trying to “trim the fat” so to speak and only spend time with people who bring joy to me. I feel like in the last couple years I just started accruing “friends” who really aren’t involved in my life or seem to only use me to complain or as their own personal therapist and never ever ask me about my own life. I have such limited time already that I hate to make an investment that won’t pay off in the long run.
Um…kind of went on a tangent.
On the flip side, I’ve been debating about inviting P’s sister to do something one on one because she is really sweet but I feel weird going down that path without his blessing. Does that make sense?
No, that is now awful at all! I think we are all kind of shedding friends all the time, right?
Did you ask P what he thought? Maybe he would like that idea!
I can’t remember who I have asked out, but I definitely have! Actually, a friend from school last quarter! We never talked in class, but I was out sick for a week, and she was one of the other students who grabbed me notes, etc. Then, we became classmate buddies and worked together on the large project we had. We were supposed to meet for drinks tonight, but the snowstorm hit, so we’re both locked down at home!
I think that meeting/find friends of the same gender as you is much harder than dating! (I guess not applicable since you’re married…but still.) If I go out with a guy and never materializes, I may take it personally for a day or two, but then I get over it. But if I hang out with a girl with hopes of being friends and it doesn’t seem to work out, it’s so much more devastating! That being said, it’s also really hard to ask out another girl! Admittedly most of my friends in New York are from twitter/blogging, which makes it MUCH easier to make friends. I have no idea how people do it otherwise.
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