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Yesterday was my sister Christina’s nineteenth birthday AND her first day of class (Happy Birthday, right?!). [She is applying to the interior design program this winter, so she is taking classes similar to the ones I took! Drafting! Elements of Design! Woo-hoo! Maybe someday we will work together…]
We took her skydiving for her birthday back in July, but Steven and I still sent her a gift – this “sisters” necklace. I bought one for myself as well.
Christina is the only sister I have, but she has a lot of other sisters – sorority sisters.
And here’s the part where I try to explain what it is like to be jealous of a bunch of girls that I have never even met.
I feel like I wasted most of our time growing up together, playing the part of the bitchy older sister (while she was perhaps playing the part of the bratty younger sister?). We’re only five years apart, but I never felt like we were even close to being in the same stage of our lives during those five years – until the last few years.
Now it’s like I’ve met this really cool person for the first time and I want to spend a lot of time with them, but I can’t – because they live in a different state than me.
Don’t get me wrong – I’ve always loved my sister to death, and would do anything for her. There’s never been a huge rift between us, I just never felt a true sisterly bond with her. Not like this anyway.
Hence, why I am jealous of all of her sorority sisters – that get to live with her, and hang out with her, and share all their day-to-day adventures with her. While I am lucky if I even get to see her 10 times a year.
Themocracy
as a child 5 years is a big deal, the fact that you guys can bond while she is still a teenager speaks highly of her maturity (or your lack there of 😉
you guys took your own path and maybe if you had been really close she would have chosen a similar field just to be like you instead of because it’s the right path for her.
as for her sorrors ~ the ones I know remember little of the college years thanks to all those recreational activities at the frat parties. but when you get to see her you guys actually do really cool stuff that is way different than the life of a typical college student.
Since you guys have such a great relationship, I’m sure you’ll be able to find more time for each other than a lot of siblings.
My brother’s a jerk, and I don’t care if I ever see him again, so I really envy you. I really appreciate the relationship my mom has with her sister, the relationship my wife has with her sister. I’ll never have that but I think it’s great.
Awwww. what a sweet post. That necklace is pretty.
Take comfort in the fact that you will probably be there for her long, LONG after the sorority sisters have come and gone.
Ya know, I’m generally that way (envious? Jealous?) over anyone who has that sort of sibling bond. My brother and I were too busy beating the heck out of each other to notice we were human beings. Fortunately, my children are actually best friends. I hope it stays that way, because there is a major bond there.
Yeah, they get to hang and all that every day, but have you seen some of the catfights and backstabbing that occurs in sorority houses? Not good for lasting relationships. But great for YouTube videos!
de – I am really excited that she decided to go into ID. Of course, a large part of me wants to help her out! And I doubt she goes to any frat parties… LOL!
ajooja – I do hope to make the most of it now. I’m sorry your brother is a jerk – I imagine it would be hard to have a sibling like that – and still try to respect them. But at least you found a best friend in your wife 😀
diane – Well… I don’t want to wish that on her… but I like to think that I will always be more reliable/trustworthy 😛
Kyra – I bet it WILL stay that way for your children. Especially if they are closer in age! I have two brothers, and I am not very close with them. We get along and I love to spend time with them, but we were never best friends.
kapgar – Ha ha! I know she has some drama there, but I think she is having a good time overall.
Hey – I’m jealous you have a sister! I hope my girls grow up and want to hang out!
oh, i so feel the same way. my sister and i are 4.5 yrs apart, and i think both of us are old enough now to WANT to have a close relationship… but she’s in a phd program in CA, and i’m out here in VA. makes it hard. 🙁
I feel the same way about my brother, who is 6 years younger than me. I was put ahead a year in school so we were 7 grades apart. That is a lot in kid years! But now I know his girlfriend and love her, and have gotten to know my brother a bit more as a person, and I really wish we could live in the same state now!
Awh sister! I love the necklace and the skydiving haha you are fantastic! Yeah I was the bratty younger sister when we were growing up! I think living far apart helped us to become closer, but I do wish I could see you more often. 🙁 Once I graduate and move out there we’ll see each other more often!!
And yes I am in a sorority and love all of my sorority sisters, but they will never ever come close to replacing my real sister! The most amazing woman in my life who I’ve looked up to since I was 1! I love being in a sorority and living with all of my good friends, but I am still pretty pumped to graduate and move closer to youuuuu!!
Love you sister!!
That is an awesome necklace! I think a lot of siblings form a special bond as they get older. I’m glad you guys have one of those, you will be in for some fun adventures as the years go by!
Beth – They will! I can tell already 😉
Alice – You know my pain EXACTLY! 🙁
tori – “Kids years” – I think that is the right term. It’s easier to be friends with people further away in age from you when you’re an adult, but when you’re younger, it’s kind of hard. I hope you get the opportunity to spend some time with your brother and his gf! (Steven and I LOVE spending time with my sis and her bf. We have A LOT of (silly) fun together!)
Christina – You PROMISE you’ll move out here? 😉 On Sunday, I was telling Steven how I haven’t seen two of my bridesmaids since the wedding, and he said “If you could have any two couples move out here, who would they be?” I told him “Christina and Kyle and Bridesmaid #4 and her bf.” I asked him who his choices would be and he said “Christina and Kyle and Bridesmaid #3 and her husband.” LOL.
Gina (Mannyed) – That is what I look forward to – all of the coming years! Did you and your twin brother always get along?