Te amo
Yesterday a coworker of mine asked me if I still say “I love you” to Steven when I get off the phone with him.
Of course!
But I have already caught a few times when I am in a hurry and just say, “Gotta go! Bye!”
There’s something nice about being told “I love you,” when you get off the phone with someone. Doesn’t it feel like a more complete end to a call? I say it to Steven, my parents, my grandparents, sometimes my siblings and friends…
I just don’t want to get into the habit of dismissing it. Especially with Steven. I don’t want to become one of those couples that is so casual with each other that they don’t even try anymore. I think you know what I mean…
Themocracy
*lowers head*
Yes, yes I do know what you mean…..
I always feel like a conversation with my family is not done until we say I love you……when I don’t, it feels weird 🙂
I’m the same way. I tell my wife “I love you” during every conversation.
I tell lots of other people I love them too. It’s almost difficult to not say “I love you” in inappropriate situations. 🙂
i like to say “i love you” at unexpected times so it isn’t just something i say when i get off the phone or say good-bye. whenever it strikes me, that feeling of how i love someone, i say it. i blurt it out! and sometimes i even send cards to people randomly just because i was thinking of them and wanted to tell them. that kind of things goes a long way with me. i tried to explain this to The Fella recently. i’m easy to impress- little things like leaving a note on my pillow or car could wow me for days. 😉
I’m with you (and Sizzle!). It is important, but I’m also careful about not just saying it out of habit. I mean, if I am going to say it to someone I want it to have meaning behind it, and not just be the way I start or end a greeting.
However, my mom always says it when we finish our phone calls and the one or two times it was overlooked I got really sad!!
99.99% of the time i always say i love you to R before we get off the phone… of course there are the times when i’m lucky enough to just say bye before the bottom falls out of whatever i’m doing… everytime i tell him i love him it makes me feel good… my biggest fear is something happening to one of us and the last words we spoke to each other were harsh…
sizzle- i do the same thing with the cards… i love sending cards just to let someone know i’m thinking about them… not only does it make the other person feel good (i hope) but it makes me feel good too!!
Sizzle, we seem to be a lot alike! I’m the same way–I do the random cards/emails. This year I even had a new years resolution going where once a week I hand-write a letter to someone important to me just to say hi, see what’s up, and let them know I’m thinking about them. Who can tell me they dont’ smile when they get a snail-mail letter nowadays, since they have become so rare in the days of email-mania.
I do NOT say “I love you” in any habitual sort of way. Mine are almost always random, but at the same time, more and more frequent. I don’t have a “significant other”, but my friends mean the world to me. Because of this, I want them to know how important they are to me, especially my best closest friends.
I’d say it’s been over the past 5 or so years though that I’ve really gotten better at actually saying “I love you” to people. I never used to be all that sentimental/touchy-feely/emotional of a girl, but over the years I’ve learned the importance of feeling loved and appreciated. There’s not much better than having the love you think people have for you confirmed by them saying it!
What a great blog post, Kim!
I don’t say “I love you” when I have quick, casual conversations with hubby if I’m at work. But I do usually say I love you randomly like when where on the train, or waking thru the mall, driving in a car. For me, I don’t want it to ever be something I say out of habit, I want to keep it fresh and say it when he least expects it!
I love it when people (as noted in comments above) say “I love you” at the most random, unexpected times. Sure, it’s great to say “I love you” when you get off the phone because it’s the last thing you remember about the conversation. However, he times you hear it without expecting it are the times that stick with you for days, weeks, even years to come. As long as you’re making an effort, I think it’s to be admired!
Hilly – don’t worry… I definitely wasn’t thinking of you!
Felicia – I agree with you about the family thing. It is especially weird for me not to say it since I live so far away.
ajooja – Your comment reminds me of one of Steven’s friends who used “I love you” inappropriately… he accidentally said it to a consultant when he got off the phone with him at work!
sizzle – that comment makes me want to say “i love you” to you. You’re such a sweetie! I love sending and receiving random cards… it makes me feel so good!
diane – I understand what you mean about not just saying it out of habit. It seems like when Steven and I drop the “I” off “I love you,” and just say “love you,” it doesn’t seem as sincere.
CourtneyInControl – I have thought that awful thought too – “how would I feel if the last thing we said to each other was not “I love you”?! 🙁
Kimberly – What a wonderful resolution! I know what you mean about opening up to being emotional/touchy feely. I used to never hug anyone until I had this friend who always wanted hugs. And I never used to say “I love you” to friends until they said it to me… but then I realized how good it felt, as you said, to reconfirm your feelings for one another! 🙂
Gina (Mannyed) – I love the random ones. It IS unexpected and makes you feel so good. HINT HINT Steven!!!
Emma – I am going to try to make it more random! It is easy with Steven… but I wonder what it would be like if I said it randomly to family!
I tried to post a comment yesterday but your page quit on me. I still say I love you on the phone as does DH, and people always say stupid things like “aww, you must be newly weds” (er no, 12+ years now). It’s sad really.